I recently read a blog post by Steph from over at socialspying.com about how blogging is her dirty little secret. You can read the full blog post here but in all honesty, before reading this post and some threads on Twitter, I wasn’t aware that so many people blogged in secrecy from their friends and family.
Coming to this revelation was a breath of fresh air for me because I’m one of those bloggers too.
Here’s a list of the pros and cons to keeping your blog a secret:
CON: Starting From Scratch
A lot of blogger’s who are public with their blog and share it to their personal profiles have such an advantage without even realizing it. In the first couple of weeks of blogging, even though I had a couple of posts under my belt, I had zero followers. After 3 months, my follower count has definitely increased on my blog but my Instagram and Twitter is still lagging. If I would have initially shared my blog to my personal media sites, starting with my 1000 friends on Facebook and 800 followers on Twitter, I would have already had a base of almost 2000 people to read my posts and engage with.
There are only 3 people in my personal life who have access to my URL and can read my blog on a daily basis. The main reason that I keep my blog a secret is because I was worried about being judged by others.
PRO: No Judgment
It seems as if everyone has an opinion nowadays and I’m hesitant about people reading my thoughts and content then jumping to conclusions about who I am or what I’m doing. A big part of having a blog is to express yourself in a place where you feel safe and I’m not sure combining my blogging life & personal life would be helping me in that aspect. Mostly every social media friend that I have is from my hometown. I felt like if I made my blog public to them, it could be shared or talked about very quickly, and maybe not in a good way. I didn’t want to take the risk.
By not sharing my blog with friends and family, I don’t have to worry about hearing opinions on the things I’m writing about. I don’t have to be lectured about my writing, the things I’m doing, and whether I’m living a good life. Which brings me to my next benefit of a secret blog…
PRO: No Restrictions On My Writing
I also didn’t want to have any sort of restrictions on me when it came to writing so I kept it a secret from almost everyone in my life. The 3 people in my life who do read my posts I obviously am comfortable with enough to let them read that. I feel like if I went public and started sharing to my personal social media sites, I would then have to think about my grandma, 5th grade teacher, former sports coach, etc. when it came to posting personal things in my life. Once you share the content, there’s no going back. They can access it forever then. I don’t like feeling that vulnerable.
When I first started my blog, the only social media site I used was Twitter. After a couple of months, I’ve really tried utilizing other services and started producing a more thorough Instagram. The problem with having a secret blog and pseudonym is that I’d rather not show my face.
So, it’s probably safe to say that I’m a tad self-conscious. To me, it takes all of the confidence in the world to be able to put yourself out there like all of the open bloggers do. I really do hope that one of these days I’ll be able to share my blog to those in my personal life. Until then, I’ll work on myself and my writing and maybe it will eventually lead to bigger things!